To the Social Media Haters

Whilst on the hunt for articles about social media, I realized most of them are about how social media basically ruined our lives. How we are now slaves of the internet, how addicted we are, how “fake” we are online.

Although this might have some truth behind it, I respectfully disagree. (to some extent).

Yes.

First and foremost: one thing I see most is how people (usually haters) hide behind the screen, to say hurtful things to people they usually don’t know. In my humble opinion, (which I might add, I know nothing about the subject so this is really JUST an opinion based on absolutely nothing) social media is not a shield where you (and everyone else) hide behind it. In fact, it is basically a window, glass window.

SOCIAL MEDIA IS WHERE YOU SHOW YOUR TRUE SELF

Example 1:

Have you ever noticed while scrolling down on social media, and out of nowhere, pops into your face a comment your aunt left on a page, let’s say, on a random news post. You read it and you realized that comment (no matter what it was) is something you have never, for the life of you, thought you’d hear coming out of that person’s mouth. (that could go both ways, either good or bad, but I’m leaving generic just for the sake of it). And you’re like:

Well, there you have it. That’s their true self, that’s who they really are.

Example 2 (and by the way, I’ve seen it happening):

You recently started on a new job, you don’t know anyone aside from elevator convos, but you kinda make assumptions, you can tell who is the bossy one, who is the funny one, who is the suck up one (there’s always a suck up one), and so on. And then there’s the quiet one, the girl who goes to work, does her job, no sucking up anyone’s ass, no jokes, just doing what she’s told. After establishing some new relationships around the job, you start following people on social media (because that’s what you do) and when you check the quiet/shy girl’s account: surprise surprise: she’s a party animal, she has thousands of followers, loads of likes and tons of party pictures and you’re just as shocked as the next guy.

Yes that happened to me and I was like: DAYUM GURL.

I’m not saying that this is wrong, that she (or anyone for that matter) should act the same way everywhere they go. Quite the opposite actually. There’s a time and place for everything. I’m simply stating the fact that is through the glass window of social media one can (let’s say) unravel the mystery of someone else’s true personality. (not that is none of your business anyway).

Example 3:(the infamous) HATERS

We all know them. We’ve seen them. Some of us even been there. I myself, have not yet experienced someone “hating” on my pages, which I think would be quite a milestone if that happens. Not gonna lie.

Yes, most of the time, you stumble upon hating comments on celebrity (or not) pages. Usually coming from “fake profiles”. And here is where the concept of “internet shield” comes to mind. I, however, don’t think these people are, in fact, HIDING behind a fake profile. What does it matter what they look like? What does it matter what their name is? What they say, how they act is what really matters. THAT’S WHO THEY REALLY ARE. No point on hiding, honestly.

And now you’re like: “ok, ok I can agree with that, but how about all that fakeness, all the happiness and the bragging we see on everyone’s accounts”.

Well, yeah, there’s that. However, to my understanding, when you post pictures of yourself smiling, happy, while on the other side (literally) you’re there, feeling sorry for yourself for whatever reason. You are not hiding who you really are. You are hiding a feeling. You are masking a STATE of being, not your actual being. You know what I mean?

You’ve been through a breakup, you feel you’ve hit rock bottom, are you going to post a picture of you bawling your eyes out? I think not. You will be posting a picture of yourself happy and HASHTAG FREEDOM. Aren’t ya? (been there done that)

Unhappy and heartbroken is not who we are, is simply how we are feeling, and I can assure you, we ALL have been there. And that’s okay, that doesn't define us.

However, I gotta tell you, the “bragging” part. The “I’m cool I have everything money can buy” part. That is beyond me. I have no “excuse” for that. I’ll get back to you on that on another chance.

I guess that’s all for today folks. I hope I didn’t sound harsh or anything, to me, it is much easier to recognize people’s personalities online than in person. I personally, have a lot of trouble of “reading” people’s reactions in real life, on the other hand, I feel like I can see right through them on their social media, no matter what they post (myself included, you can see right through me on my social media, true dat.)

Also, I didn't make this whole post “Barney Stinson” narrated intentionally, it was just a happy accident. I’m not complaining, are you?

Bye now.